Reclaiming Control and Finding Harmony Amidst Change

Life is a series of chapters, each one marked by transitions and major events. Whether it’s a move, a career change, a breakup, or a new addition to the family, these milestones can leave us feeling overwhelmed and disoriented. In the midst of these shifts, the clutter in our physical spaces often mirrors the chaos in our minds.

As a professional organizer, I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative power of decluttering after a major life event. It’s a powerful tool to regain control, find peace, and pave the way for a fresh start. In this guide, I’ll share some tried-and-true tips to help you embark on this journey of renewal and reorganization.

1. Embrace the Process with Compassion

Before diving into the physical aspects of decluttering, acknowledge your emotional state. Major life events can trigger a range of feelings – grief, excitement, uncertainty. Recognize that it’s okay to feel this way. Give yourself permission to grieve, celebrate, or reflect as needed. This self-compassion lays the foundation for the transformative journey ahead.

2. Set Clear Intentions

Ask yourself: What kind of space do you want to create? What feelings do you want it to evoke? Define your goals for each area of your life – from your living space to your work environment and personal routines. Having a clear vision will serve as a compass, guiding your decisions throughout the decluttering process.

3. Start Small, Focus on Progress

Tackling an entire house or apartment at once can be overwhelming. Begin with one room or even a specific area within a room. The key is progress, not perfection. Celebrate each small win. As you witness the positive changes, your motivation and confidence will grow.

4. The Four-Box Method: Keep, Discard, Donate, Unsure

As you go through your belongings, categorize them into three boxes:

• Keep: Items that align with your vision and add value to your life.
• Discard: Things that no longer serve a purpose or bring you joy and/or are worn out or broken
• Donate: Things that still have use, but aren’t necessarily of use to you at this moment
• Unsure: Items you’re not ready to part with yet. Put them in a designated box and revisit them later.

5. Mindful Consumption Going Forward

After decluttering, commit to a more intentional approach to consumption. Ask yourself if new items align with your vision and if they truly serve a purpose.

6. Establish Sustainable Systems

A well-organized space requires sustainable systems. Invest in storage solutions that fit your needs and habits. Labeling, categorizing, and finding a designated place for each item will help maintain order in the long run. Work on habits that help make your day go more smoothly, like always putting the keys in the same spot.

7. Regular Maintenance and Reflection

Maintaining an organized space is an ongoing process. Set aside time each week for a quick check-in. Reflect on what’s working and what needs adjustment. As your life evolves, so will your organizational needs.

8. Celebrate Your Progress

Acknowledge and celebrate the transformation you’ve achieved. Whether it’s a cozy reading nook, a clutter-free kitchen, or an inspiring workspace, take a moment to revel in the positive changes you’ve made.

Decluttering after a major life event is a powerful step towards reclaiming your space, your time, and your life. Remember, it’s a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself, and allow the process to unfold naturally. In the end, you’ll find not only a more organized space but also a sense of calm and clarity that will guide you forward into your next chapter.